Best Therapy for Grief: 5 Evidence-Based Approaches
A research-backed guide to the five most effective therapies for grief and bereavement — from Complicated Grief Treatment to EMDR — with evidence, timelines, and guidance on choosing the right fit.
Grief Is Not a Disorder — But Sometimes It Needs Support
Grief is a natural, universal response to loss. Whether you are mourning a person, a relationship, a job, or a chapter of your life, the pain of grief is a sign that what you lost mattered. For most people, grief gradually softens over months — painful, but not paralyzing.
For others, grief becomes stuck. The acute pain does not ease, daily functioning collapses, and the future feels permanently foreclosed. When this happens, therapy is not a sign of weakness or an attempt to "get over it" — it is a tool to help you carry the loss rather than be buried by it.
This guide focuses on the five therapies with the strongest evidence for helping people through grief, whether you are navigating typical bereavement or something more complex.
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Understanding the Types of Grief Therapy Addresses
Not all grief looks the same, and different therapies are designed for different presentations:
- Acute grief is the raw, early phase of loss — waves of sorrow, disbelief, and longing that are painful but expected. Many people move through this without formal treatment.
- Prolonged Grief Disorder (PGD) — formerly called complicated grief — is diagnosed when intense grief persists beyond 12 months after the loss (6 months for children) and significantly impairs daily life. It affects roughly 1 in 10 bereaved people.
- Grief with comorbid conditions — depression, anxiety, and PTSD frequently accompany significant loss, particularly after traumatic deaths such as suicide, accident, or violence.
The type of grief you are experiencing shapes which therapy is likely to help most.
The Five Most Effective Therapies for Grief
1. Complicated Grief Treatment (CGT)
Complicated Grief Treatment, developed by Dr. Katherine Shear at Columbia University, is the most specifically designed and rigorously studied therapy for Prolonged Grief Disorder. It is often considered the gold-standard treatment for complicated grief.
How it works: CGT integrates principles from CBT and Interpersonal Therapy to address two core challenges that keep grief stuck: the inability to adapt to a changed life, and the resistance to accepting the reality of the loss. Techniques include imaginal revisiting (guided mental replay of the moment of loss to reduce avoidance), in-person situational revisiting (gradually approaching avoided people, places, or activities), and work on future goals and meaning.
What the research says: In landmark randomized controlled trials led by Shear and colleagues, CGT produced significantly better outcomes than standard interpersonal therapy for complicated grief — with 51 percent of CGT participants achieving clinically significant improvement compared to 28 percent in the comparison group. Response rates reach 70 to 80 percent across multiple studies.
Best for: Prolonged Grief Disorder, grief that has not improved over many months, grief involving significant avoidance of reminders or thoughts of the deceased, loss of a spouse or child
Typical duration: 16 sessions over approximately 4 months
2. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Grief (CBT)
CBT for grief adapts the core framework of cognitive behavioral therapy to address the thought patterns and behaviors that interfere with natural grieving. It is widely available, highly structured, and backed by strong evidence.
How it works: CBT for grief targets two main areas. First, it helps identify and challenge unhelpful cognitions — such as "I should have done more," "I can never be happy again," or "Feeling better means forgetting them." Second, it addresses behavioral avoidance: gradually reengaging with activities, people, and situations that have been abandoned since the loss. Some CBT protocols for grief also incorporate meaning-making work.
What the research says: Multiple meta-analyses confirm CBT's effectiveness for grief-related depression and functional impairment. CBT is particularly effective when depression accompanies grief — a common combination — because it addresses both simultaneously. A 2019 meta-analysis in Clinical Psychology Review found large effect sizes for CBT across grief outcomes including psychological symptoms, functioning, and quality of life.
Best for: Grief complicated by strong guilt or self-blame, grief with significant co-occurring depression or anxiety, people who prefer a structured, goal-oriented approach, typical bereavement that is proving harder than expected
Typical duration: 12 to 20 sessions
3. EMDR for Grief
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) was originally developed for trauma, but it has proven valuable for grief — particularly when the loss itself was traumatic or when intrusive images and memories are prominent.
How it works: EMDR uses bilateral stimulation (guided eye movements, taps, or auditory tones) while you briefly hold a painful memory or image in mind. The process is thought to help the brain's natural information-processing system "digest" memories that have become stuck — filing them as part of your past rather than as immediate, overwhelming experiences. For grief, EMDR often targets the most distressing images of the death, intrusive memories, or core painful beliefs about the loss.
What the research says: Research specifically on EMDR for grief shows meaningful reductions in grief symptoms, depression, and PTSD-related symptoms following traumatic loss. A randomized controlled trial published in OMEGA — Journal of Death and Dying found EMDR significantly outperformed a waitlist control for bereaved participants. EMDR is now recognized as an effective option for grief by the EMDR International Association.
Best for: Grief following a traumatic or unexpected death (accident, suicide, violence, medical emergency), grief with strong intrusive images or memories, grief complicated by PTSD symptoms, people who have tried talk therapy without sufficient relief
Typical duration: 8 to 16 sessions (traumatic grief may require more)
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4. Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT)
Interpersonal Psychotherapy (IPT) was originally developed with grief as one of its four core treatment focuses. Its interpersonal approach is well suited to the social dimensions of loss — the changed relationships, altered roles, and isolation that often accompany bereavement.
How it works: IPT for grief directly addresses two of its core problem areas: grief (the loss of a loved one) and role transitions (the major life changes that follow loss). Treatment focuses on fully processing the grief, rebuilding social connections that may have deteriorated, and adapting to a changed identity. IPT does not emphasize thought restructuring but instead works through improving communication, understanding relationships, and expanding social support.
What the research says: IPT has one of the longest evidence bases for grief, with studies dating back to the 1980s. It is one of only two therapies (alongside CBT) with the highest evidence rating from the APA for depression related to bereavement. The adaptation for complicated grief was the comparison condition in the CGT trials, showing meaningful benefit in its own right.
Best for: Grief complicated by isolation, withdrawal, and lost social connections; role transitions after loss (adjusting to life as a widow, single parent, or empty nester); grief with prominent relational components; people who prefer exploring the interpersonal dimensions of their loss
Typical duration: 12 to 16 sessions
5. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) offers a different approach to grief — one that focuses less on changing thoughts or processing memories and more on developing a new relationship with pain while rebuilding a meaningful life.
How it works: ACT works on the principle that attempting to eliminate or suppress grief often makes it worse. Instead, it teaches psychological flexibility — the ability to hold painful feelings with openness rather than struggle or avoidance, while continuing to act in ways that align with your values. For grief, this means learning to carry the loss as part of your story without being defined by it, and moving toward a life with meaning even while the grief remains.
What the research says: Research on ACT specifically for grief is growing. A 2023 randomized controlled trial found ACT produced significant reductions in prolonged grief symptoms and functional impairment compared to a waitlist. ACT is also particularly effective for grief complicated by existential questions about meaning and purpose — a common challenge for people whose loss has shaken their worldview.
Best for: Grief involving profound questions of meaning, identity, or purpose; grief with strong avoidance or experiential suppression; people who have resisted therapy because they feel they "should" be over it; grief after loss of a life partner or child that has altered core life values
Typical duration: 8 to 16 sessions
Quick Comparison
| CGT | CBT | EMDR | IPT | ACT | |
|---|---|---|---|---|---|
| Specifically designed for grief | Yes | Adapted | Adapted | Yes | Adapted |
| Best for complicated/prolonged grief | Yes | Moderate | Yes (traumatic) | Moderate | Yes |
| Evidence strength | Very strong | Strong | Strong | Strong | Moderate to strong |
| Sessions | ~16 | 12–20 | 8–16 | 12–16 | 8–16 |
| Works well alongside depression treatment | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes | Yes |
How to Choose the Right Therapy for Your Grief
Several factors can help guide the decision:
- How long has your grief been this intense? If your acute grief is recent (weeks to months), CBT or IPT often support natural processing. If it has been over a year without easing, CGT or a specialized prolonged grief protocol is the stronger choice.
- Was the death traumatic or sudden? EMDR has particular strength when the nature of the loss — not just the loss itself — is causing distress. Intrusive images, nightmares, and hypervigilance suggest trauma-informed approaches.
- Is depression or anxiety prominent? CBT and IPT directly address comorbid conditions alongside grief. If you are struggling to function, get out of bed, or feel any positive emotion, treating co-occurring depression is important.
- Are meaning and purpose shattered? ACT is especially well suited when grief has disrupted your sense of who you are and what matters, not just your emotional state.
- Is connection and isolation the core problem? IPT focuses directly on rebuilding social bonds and navigating changed roles — practical strengths for those who have withdrawn from people since their loss.
What About Grief Support Groups?
Therapy and support groups serve different needs and are not mutually exclusive. Group therapy for grief — particularly structured groups facilitated by a licensed therapist — combines the interpersonal benefits of shared experience with clinical guidance. Peer support groups (such as those run by hospices or nonprofit organizations) provide community and connection.
If you are dealing with Prolonged Grief Disorder or grief complicated by trauma, individual therapy with a trained clinician is the stronger starting point. Support groups can be a valuable complement once individual treatment is underway.
The Bottom Line
Grief does not need to be eliminated — it needs to be carried. The therapies in this guide do not aim to make you forget your loss or suppress your pain. They aim to help you integrate the loss into your life, rebuild your capacity for connection and meaning, and move forward without leaving behind what mattered.
If you are unsure where to start, CGT and CBT have the broadest and strongest evidence bases for most presentations of grief. If your loss was traumatic or sudden, add EMDR to your list. If isolation and lost purpose are at the center of your struggle, IPT and ACT respectively offer focused help.
The best therapy for grief is the one that fits your situation — and the best time to start is now.
Time alone does ease most grief. If your grief is not softening after many months, is significantly impairing your ability to work, care for yourself, or maintain relationships, or involves intense longing and difficulty accepting the reality of the loss, therapy is likely to help. You do not need to wait until you are in crisis to seek support — early intervention often produces faster recovery.
Normal grief involves intense pain that gradually softens over time, usually within months. Prolonged Grief Disorder is diagnosed when intense grief symptoms — including yearning, difficulty accepting the loss, bitterness, and difficulty engaging with life — persist beyond 12 months and significantly impair functioning. It is not a character flaw or weakness; it is a clinical condition that responds well to specialized treatment.
Good grief therapy should not make things significantly worse. Some people experience a temporary increase in emotional intensity as they begin engaging with the loss rather than avoiding it — this is normal and typically passes. If you feel consistently worse after several sessions, discuss this with your therapist. It may indicate you need a different approach, a slower pace, or additional stabilization before engaging with the loss directly.
General therapy can support grieving people, but therapies specifically adapted or designed for grief — such as Complicated Grief Treatment or grief-focused CBT — have specific techniques for processing loss, adapting to changed life circumstances, and rebuilding meaning. If your grief is complicated or prolonged, a therapist with specific training in grief treatment is likely to be more effective than general counseling alone.
Most evidence-based grief therapy protocols run 12 to 20 sessions over 3 to 5 months. Complicated Grief Treatment is typically 16 sessions. EMDR for traumatic grief may resolve faster for some people. Grief that is deeply intertwined with trauma, personality factors, or multiple losses may take longer. Many people notice meaningful improvement within the first 6 to 8 sessions.
Yes. Multiple studies confirm that grief-focused CBT and other therapies delivered via video are as effective as in-person treatment for most people. Online therapy also removes barriers that grief can create — difficulty leaving home, fatigue, or living in an area without trained grief therapists. If you are considering online grief therapy, look for a licensed therapist with specific grief training, not just a general platform.
Yes, though traumatic loss often benefits from approaches that address both the grief and the trauma simultaneously. EMDR is particularly well suited to traumatic bereavement. Complicated Grief Treatment was studied in populations experiencing a range of loss types including sudden and traumatic deaths. Be transparent with a potential therapist about the nature of the loss so they can tailor the approach appropriately.
The 988 Suicide and Crisis Lifeline is a free, confidential resource available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Call or text 988. It is appropriate any time you are experiencing thoughts of suicide or self-harm, feel you cannot keep yourself safe, or are in overwhelming emotional distress. Grief can sometimes reach this level of intensity, and reaching out is always the right choice.
You Don't Have to Grieve Alone
Understanding your options is the first step. Whether your grief is recent or has felt stuck for months, evidence-based therapy can help you carry the loss and rebuild a meaningful life.
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